toksah dok "tebeng" (cuba)

kudapan sebelum tidur.....

i was talking to my wife a few nights ago and among the topics that we were discussing was fasal kriteria yg diperlukan kalau nak jadi part of our family (jauh lagi nak bermenantu pun.........cuma sembang2 je).

there is no trial period for a married life. Ones has to really consider before making a decision to end his or her bachelor days. Many factors have to be given a deep thought for a wise decision to be made.

i told my wife, dalam perkahwinan tiada istilah 'percubaan' atau trial. Bukan nak melawan takdir tatapi sebenarnya kita yang merancang dan sesuatu itu akan terjadi, dengan izin Allah.

ramai parents yang bila anak2 mereka mengalami krisis rumahtangga akan mengeluarkan ucapan seperti berikut, esp sblh perempuan.....'kalau dulu anak mak dan ayah diambil dengan baik, mak dan ayah nak dia dihantar pulang dengan baik juga'.

wife did asked me whether i'm going to say the same? I replied NO. There is no such words from me as far as I'm concerned. It caught her by surprised a little while.

i xplain to her perkahwinan bukan perkara main-main. To me I will tell whoever yang bakal jadi menantu "kalau tak boleh jaga anak2 saya bagaimana saya menjaga mereka dan kalau rasa akan ada bibit kegagalan dalam rumahtangga yang nak dibina, toksah dok "TEBENG" nak kahwin atau jadi menantu saya (org sebelah Gerik fahamlah apa dia 'tebeng' ni.........)

"tebeng" bermaksud toksah dok cuba dari mulalah (tak gitu?). Isteriku terkejut dgn penjelasan tadi. I told her, we have given the best to our girls and their lives were full of loved from us and I could'nt terima bila hati dan perasaan anak2 kesayangan ini dilukai atau dipermainkan. And that's ME!!

of course bakal menantu have to passed certain tests which have been agreed upon by my wife and I. Bukan apa, risau tengok sekarang ni, perkahwinan itu dah dianggap macam tak ada rezeki atau jodoh bila dah tak serasi. Perlu cermin diri dulu sblm buat keputusan, jgn nak salahkan jodoh atau takdir shj.

bukan nak angkat diri konon kami pandai jaga anak2 tapi I always believed that all my daughters deserved the best as their parents have given the best to them.

so, toksah dok "tebeng".............